Toxic Vicariosity: Part 2 — College Admission Cheating Scandal — Whose Life is It Anyway?

Toxic Vicariosity: When parents live so completely through and become so invested in their children’s accomplishments that their children, who so want their parents’ love and approve, sacrifice their selves, sell their souls and ruin their lives.

What did the happy millionaire say to the unhappy billionaire?

Happy millionaire: I’ve got something you’ll never have

Unhappy billionaire: What’s that?

Happy millionaire: Enough

Before we get into this, here is something that all hard charging competitive parents and their high school student children should keep in mind.

Where you went to college (alumni benefits, notwithstanding) only matters before you get your first major job. And getting that major job is more connected to your “can do/will do attitude and drive” and accomplishments since grade school (what projects did you initiate and build, how successful was it, what did you learn, what sports teams where you on and what did you do to contribute to their success, etc.). Companies led by college dropouts are not going to be impressed by your Ivy league education but will be impressed by what you have already gotten done that made a positive difference to someone…