Powerlessness, Rage and Violence

Mark Goulston
4 min readMay 8, 2023


It’s not the guns in their hands; it’s the guns in their heads

Powerlessness, rage, and violence are deeply interconnected, and understanding their relationship is crucial for addressing the many social, political, and psychological problems that arise from their combination. At their core, powerlessness, rage, and violence all stem from a fundamental sense of frustration and helplessness, and when left unchecked, they can lead to destructive behaviors and outcomes. In this essay, we will explore the complex relationship between these three phenomena, examining how they manifest in different contexts, and exploring some of the potential ways in which they can be addressed and mitigated.

Powerlessness is a feeling of being unable to control one’s own life or destiny, often resulting from a lack of resources, support, or agency. It can manifest in various ways, such as poverty, oppression, discrimination, or marginalization. Powerlessness is a deeply distressing and destabilizing experience, and it can lead to a range of negative consequences, such as anxiety, depression, and a sense of hopelessness.

Rage, on the other hand, is a powerful and intense emotion that is often linked to feelings of injustice, betrayal, or frustration. It is a natural response to situations in which we feel threatened or disrespected, and it can be a motivating force for change. However, when unchecked, rage can become dangerous and destructive, leading to aggressive or violent behaviors that can harm oneself and others.

Violence is the most extreme manifestation of rage, and it can take many forms, such as physical, verbal, or emotional. Violence is a complex phenomenon, and it can result from a range of factors, including social, political, economic, and psychological. Violence is often used as a means of exerting power and control over others, and it can have devastating consequences for individuals, communities, and societies as a whole.

The relationship between powerlessness, rage, and violence is complex and multifaceted. On the one hand, powerlessness can lead to rage, as individuals who feel unable to control their own lives may become angry and frustrated with the perceived injustices and inequalities they face. This anger and frustration can then lead to violent behaviors, as individuals seek to assert their power and control over others in order to feel a sense of agency and autonomy.

On the other hand, rage can also lead to powerlessness, as individuals who are consumed by anger and frustration may become overwhelmed and unable to take effective action to change their circumstances. This can lead to a sense of hopelessness and helplessness, which can in turn lead to feelings of powerlessness.

Furthermore, violence can exacerbate both powerlessness and rage, as individuals who experience or witness violence may feel even more helpless and angry in the face of what they perceive as injustice and oppression. Violence can also beget more violence, as individuals who have been harmed may seek revenge or retribution against those they perceive as responsible.

There are many potential ways to address and mitigate the negative consequences of powerlessness, rage, and violence. One important approach is to address the underlying social, political, and economic factors that contribute to powerlessness and rage, such as poverty, inequality, discrimination, and oppression. By addressing these root causes, we can help to reduce the sense of frustration and helplessness that can lead to rage and violence.

Another important approach is to provide individuals with the resources, support, and agency they need to take control of their own lives and make meaningful changes. This can include providing access to education, job training, healthcare, and other essential services, as well as creating opportunities for civic engagement and participation.

In addition, addressing the psychological factors that contribute to powerlessness, rage, and violence is also important. This can involve providing individuals with access to mental health services, such as therapy and counseling, as well as creating supportive and inclusive social environments that foster a sense of belonging and connection.

It is also crucial to promote non-violent means of conflict resolution and to discourage the use of violence as a means of exerting power and control over others. This can involve promoting communication, empathy, and understanding, as well as teaching individuals to recognize and manage their emotions in healthy and constructive ways.

Finally, it is important to recognize and address the intersectional nature of powerlessness, rage, and violence. This means understanding how different forms of oppression and discrimination intersect and compound to create unique experiences of powerlessness and rage, and how these experiences can lead to different forms of violence. For example, women, people of color, and members of marginalized communities may face unique forms of powerlessness and rage, and may be more likely to experience certain forms of violence, such as sexual violence or police brutality.

In conclusion, powerlessness, rage, and violence are deeply interconnected, and addressing their negative consequences requires a multifaceted and holistic approach. By addressing the root causes of powerlessness and rage, promoting non-violent means of conflict resolution, and recognizing the intersectional nature of these issues, we can work towards creating a more just and equitable society in which all individuals can thrive.



Mark Goulston

Dr. Goulston is the world's #1 listening coach and author of "Just Listen" which became the top book on listening in the world